Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Develop Realistic Expectations

To help you deal with your loneliness, you need to develop realistic expectations about relationships.

Dr. Les Carter explains: "Make certain that you have proper expectations regarding the things that can and cannot come from relationships. Many times people who have a been through a divorce think to themselves that they want to have that ultimate relationship so they can prove to themselves and to the rest of the world they really are somebody.

"Be realistic in recognizing that there's no perfection, and you're not going to reach that ultimate ideal in your relationships. Then, when you have difficulties, it doesn't mean you've reached the ultimate bottom either."

Take time to think about what you have learned from past and current relationships and how you can apply it to future relationships. You will not learn if you are too focused on yourself and your problems, rather than on forward movement, growth, and application. Remember, your goal is not to have perfect relationships, but to learn how to grow together through hard times.

God is a sure foundation for any relationship. Ask God to guide you in your present and future relationships.

"The LORD will guide you always; he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose waters never fail" (Isaiah 58:11).

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