Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Children Dream of Bringing Parents Back Together

"If I had one wish in the whole world, it was to get my parents back together," says Melissa.

Almost all children in divorce desire to bring their parents back together again. This is a natural response. God designed families to stay together. He designed marriages to stay together. The children can sense that it is wrong to be apart, and they want to change that.

Another reason children want their parents to reconcile is due to feelings of blame. They may feel responsible for what has happened, and they feel that getting Dad and Mom back together again will relieve the guilt and make everything right again.

A third reason children push reconciliation is because the divorce has caused them to grow up more quickly than they anticipated. They are burdened by the responsibilities in their lives and just want to be kids again with kid-size worries. Allow your children to be kids. Be careful about overburdening them with adult problems and responsibilities.

Teach your children that they can only go forward from here and they must look to the future with excitement and hope. The future may not include marital reconciliation, but life can still be relaxing and fun when you and your children learn to move forward toward healing and recovery.

"Know also that wisdom is sweet to your soul; if you find it, there is a future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off" (Proverbs 24:14).

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