Non-custodial Parents

As a non-custodial parent, you may sometimes be confused about what your role is. Be aware that you still have a strong influence on your children, regardless of how often you see them. Your children are very aware of your actions and decisions regarding their lives. Be involved, and consistently reassure them of your love.

Another important suggestion is that you provide your children with a sense of continuity. It is comforting and reassuring for your children to know when they will see you; to be able to contact you in between through telephone, e-mail, or letters; and to know that you will be contacting them. Always remember that you are still the parent, an authority figure, role model, and disciplinarian, and not a best buddy.

"Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one's youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them" (Psalm 127:3-5).

"My child, don't ignore it when the LORD disciplines you, and don't be discouraged when he corrects you. For the LORD corrects those he loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights" (Proverbs 3:11-12 NLT).