You may be at a point where you have been or are now sexually active. We want to encourage you that it is not too late. You can restore your purity and, in the process, grow closer to God.
"God is the author of purity," says Elsa Kok. "He can create purity where there is none. So if I come to God and say, 'Never again will I go into the arms of a man unless I am married,' I am confident I am pure—even if I don't have a history of purity. And should I marry, I'm going to marry with a clean conscience and a clean body. God does restore purity. It is never, ever too late.
"The value of waiting in purity is tremendous. I had a friend who got remarried after fifteen years. She had also been sexually active when she was younger. She made a decision for purity and remained pure for the marriage. She said, 'Oh Elsa, it was so worth the wait.'"
If you are a believer in Christ, then you live by a different set of rules—God's rules, which are governed by grace.
"Offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness. For sin shall not be your master, because you are not under law, but under grace" (Romans 6:13-14).