Sexual intercourse—and the words, touches, and thoughts that go with it—is God-created and God-approved within the bonds of marriage. Sex is so amazing that when a couple comes together, they supernaturally bond. Even after intercourse is over, the couple is still bonded because sex cannot occur without that supernatural bonding to occur as well. Genesis 2:24 says the couple becomes "one flesh."
"If sex were just physical," says Paula Rinehart, "any of us could walk away and feel nothing from it. But there's a real bond that's made. When people go through the breaking of multiple sexual bonds, they are losing a little bit of themselves over and over. Often when I relate to a woman who's had a number of men in her life, I feel like I'm relating to someone for whom the lights are on but I can't get in to her personality. She's simply been through the breaking of too many bonds."
Maybe you have engaged in sex outside of marriage or are worried you have lost an irretrievable part of yourself from your prior marriage. Dr. Linda Mintle offers this reassurance: "Sometimes people who have divorced wonder if a part of them has been forever lost. No, in God's economy, that part of you can be recovered through prayer and through asking God to restore that loss to you."
God can redeem you from any situation and sin. He can free you and restore wholeness to you. Just ask Him.
"I have swept away your offenses like a cloud, your sins like the morning mist. Return to me, for I have redeemed you" (Isaiah 44:22).