Monday, June 7, 2010

When Should You Involve Your Kids?

"Do not immediately introduce the children to the person you are dating," advises Gary Richmond. "Tell the children that you are dating and if anything comes of the dating, you will keep them apprised so they don't have the constant fear of the unknown. They will be secure in the fact that if they do not hear any more, that nothing serious is happening."

When you bring together the person you are dating and your children, a relationship will begin to form between them. Perhaps the person you date likes to talk with your children, plan surprises for them, bring gifts, or play their favorite games with them. If the new relationship ends, then the children will have to deal with feelings of abandonment again. That is not fair to them.

Dr. Bob Barnes says in a dating relationship you "have the privilege of teaching the children how to date, how to stay pure, and how to not rush into anything." Every moment of your life is a teaching opportunity for your children.

"Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them" (Deuteronomy 4:9).

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