Setting boundaries ahead of time for your relationships is a crucial step. You need to be prepared to not budge once you've set those limits. When you are not in a relationship, it's easy to say, "These are the boundaries for sure." But when you meet someone who is wonderful, you are tempted to go just a little bit further.
You may think, Well, a good-night kiss never hurt anyone. Then, before you know it, that good-night kiss gets more passionate, and you continue to push the boundaries, setting new ones slightly further out.
Elsa Kok says, "You have to set a firm line, and you have to agree on that line and not continue to press the boundaries to keep it more exciting. The amazing thing is when you set those boundaries and keep them, you're forced to get creative in how you express your care for someone. It opens communication that you may never have thought of before because now you are forced to say things and not just express them physically. It actually builds the romance and enhances the relationship because you are doing things a different way."
Take care not to rationalize your actions. Instead, seek a better way of doing things.
"Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched?" (Proverbs 6:27-28).