Our society has the mentality that we are entitled to feel good, to have nice things, and to go after whatever it is that we want. Society says if you work hard, you deserve it.
Paula Rinehart comes across this same mentality as she counsels people in divorce. She often hears, "Given what I've been through, of course I need the validation and the healing of a sexual relationship outside of marriage."
You may think that you deserve to have sex and that God's limits should not apply in your situation. But you may not be thinking of the potential pain and destruction you are opening yourself up to by engaging in sex outside of God's plan. You may not be thinking of the harmful consequences to others around you.
Being saved by Christ is not based on a person's work or achievements, and it is not something anyone deserves. As a matter of fact the Bible says that because we are sinners by birth (not inherently good) that we deserve punishment. But Jesus came and died on a cross to pay the penalty for our sins and then He rose again and is alive in heaven today. You can choose to accept His free gift of love and life, not because you deserve it, but because He loves you so incredibly much.
"What marvelous love the Father has extended to us! Just look at it—we're called children of God! That's who we really are. But that's also why the world doesn't recognize us or take us seriously, because it has no idea who he is or what he's up to" (1 John 3:1 Msg).