Our culture approves of and encourages sexual expression and sex outside of marriage. Daily we are bombarded by sexual images and with the message that sex outside of marriage is good.
"Sex is all around us, but that's no excuse," says Dick Purnell. "Just because everybody jumps off the bridge and dies doesn't mean you have to do the same thing."
Kay Arthur says, "Sex has become everything in our society today. Because there's no fear of God before our eyes, we flaunt our sexuality. We sleep around. We live with people. We don't get married. We think of sex as the cure-all."
Take a moment to consider what you believe about every aspect of a sexual relationship—from showing interest, to flirtation, to holding hands, to kissing—everything that leads up to and surrounds the act of sexual intercourse. Define your beliefs ahead of time so that you can stand firm on your convictions. If you are unsure about the rightness or wrongness of a particular thing, you will likely convince yourself that it is right when the feelings and emotions start coming in. Search the Bible and pray to God to help you make the right choices about what you believe concerning every aspect of sex before you find yourself in those situations.
"People may be pure in their own eyes, but the LORD examines their motives" (Proverbs 16:2).