Thursday, October 29, 2009

Face Your Problems

One of the first responses you may have had during the divorce process was denial, but the time of denial has to come to an end. Be honest with yourself. Face your problems. This process is three-fold:

1. Recognize/define your problems.
2. Admit your problems to yourself and to others.
3. Take steps to deal with your problems in a healthy manner.

Dr. Linda Mintle says, "Some people know they're emotionally stuck and that they're not moving on from the intense emotions of the divorce. Yet, they don't want to face their problems; they don't want to deal with the emotions. They know that facing their feelings is going to feel really bad. Many people don't want to face those bad feelings, and they don't want to do the work. They don't want to look at their baggage or their unhealthy patterns in relationships. Remember that you have to feel bad before you feel better."

You are making your life even more difficult if you refuse to confront the reality of your situation. We understand that this is much easier said than done, though! Facing your problems is especially difficult because, first of all, you don't want them to be true, and second, you are just plain exhausted. Now is the time to depend on the Lord's strength.

"But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength" (2 Timothy 4:17).

"The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe" (Proverbs 18:10).

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