By identifying the causes of your anger, you will be better prepared to handle your anger when it arises. Anger can stem from several sources. One source is an overdependence on other people.
You were born dependent on others for many things, including affirmation and love. As you grew, you learned that some people are dependable and some are not. You may also have discovered that too much dependence on another person can be unhealthy. In a divorce situation, one spouse will sometimes depend too much on the other to meet his or her emotional needs, and this can result in great frustration and anger for both.
You do not need to depend on your former spouse for your emotional well-being. Depend on God. He knows that you need love, affirmation, and a human touch. He will make sure that you get it and that it comes from the right source.
"This is what the LORD says: 'Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who depends on flesh for his strength and whose heart turns away from the LORD. . . . But blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose confidence is in him. He will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit'" (Jeremiah 17:5, 7-8).