Sometimes people mistakenly think they need a new relationship for their healing to be complete. This is never true. True healing involves God, time, and personal and spiritual growth. What is confusing, though, is that a new relationship can cause you to feel like you are healing, when you are not.
"The relationship was filling in gaps that needed to be healed, not just filled in. My healing was being delayed, and once the relationship broke off, the hole was even bigger than it was when my wife left," says Marc.
When the painful gaps from your first marriage are being filled with something other than Christ, you can falsely think you are healing. The open wounds and bitter losses from your first marriage and from the divorce process need to be filled with God's healing power.
Here are some ways to begin filling the gaps God's way. You can read the Bible and study specific passages in depth, spend time with Christian friends, pray, do volunteer work, start a new hobby, spend time listening to God, get involved in a Christ-centered support group, attend counseling, read, and enjoy family and friends. This is not to suggest a whirlwind of activity, but relaxed, focused moments spent building relationships with God, family, and same-sex friends.
"By faith in the name of Jesus, this man whom you see and know was made strong. It is Jesus' name and the faith that comes through him that has given this complete healing to him, as you can all see" (Acts 3:16).