The tendency to look for nurture and rescue in a new relationship is strong, especially because it feels good and right after all the pain you have been experiencing.
"I met my second husband six months after my separation from my first husband," shares Jeannette. "I immediately got emotionally involved because I had this deep, soul-level pain that was just excruciating, and no matter what I did, it wouldn't go away. So I got into this relationship, and slowly it started taking away the pain and I forgot about the pain. Shortly after that, I got married and knew I had made a mistake, but I had invested too much and didn't want a second failed marriage. I continued in the marriage and tried to save it the best that I could, but you can only do so much and pretend so long. It just fell apart."
You never want to be needy when getting involved in a new relationship. Learn how to be single and how to be whole and fulfilled first. Also, learn about relationships and what makes relationships successful in God's eyes. Several excellent Christian books exist on relationships, communication, emotional healing, and spiritual growth. Also, talk to your church leaders about seminars or conferences you can attend to increase your knowledge. Delve into God's Word and learn more about the wisdom He has for you.
If your heart is crying out to be nurtured and rescued from the pain and despair, let God be your comforter.
"As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem" (Isaiah 66:13).