Rob Eagar says: "When you demand something from God, such as a new relationship, you are blocking God's love from benefiting you in that area of your life. In other words, you are saying, 'Lord, I don't want Your love. I want the love of a man or of a woman instead.' God won't force Himself upon you. He'll say, 'I love you; I'm here for you, but I can't give you My love until you are willing to receive it.'
"Whatever you depend upon for your happiness will always end up controlling you; therefore, if you feel you have to get married in order to be happy, then the approval of the opposite sex will control your self-esteem. How other people view you will dominate the way you view yourself."
If you sincerely desire God's love more than the love of another person, then you are growing and maturing and you might be ready to consider a new relationship. If you think you are ready, then be sure the relationship is His idea and not yours. Remember, do not make decisions based on feelings. Use wisdom, God's Word, prayer, and Christian counsel to make all decisions, large and small. Let your self-esteem be grounded in Christ. If you desire a relationship with God above all else, your heart will truly be fulfilled.
"'For your Maker is your husband—the LORD Almighty is his name—the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer; he is called the God of all the earth. The LORD will call you back as if you were a wife deserted and distressed in spirit—a wife who married young, only to be rejected,' says your God" (Isaiah 54:5-6).