In this multiple-choice quiz, choose one of the following: (a) married or (b) single.
1. What are you the day before you get married?
2. What are you the day before you have your final divorce decree in hand?
3. What are you the day after you have your final divorce decree in hand?
The answers are b, a, and b. The first answer is easy. The second answer is tricky because you may feel single at that point, even though you are not. The third answer is also difficult because you may still feel married because you have been in that state for so long.
"If you are still married, you are not available to date," says Sabrina Black. "Even though you feel emotionally divorced from the person, you are still married by law and by God's standards.
"When you start to bring other people into the mix, then you start to make comparisons, which is not fair because this is not a person who has a history with you. This person has come in and seems like icing on the cake."
In the divorce process, taking shortcuts does not lead you to the correct destination, but to twisting, deceiving side roads. If you want to be successful in future relationships, you must follow God's instructions and timing. Think carefully about whether dating is a safe, wise idea.
"Don't look for shortcuts to God. The market is flooded with surefire, easygoing formulas for a successful life that can be practiced in your spare time. Don't fall for that stuff, even though crowds of people do. The way to life—to God!—is vigorous and requires total attention" (Matthew 7:13-14 Msg).