Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Family and Friends Pull Back

When a person is going through a divorce, family and friends often don't know what to say or how to interact, so they tend to pull back. This can contribute to your loneliness.

Dr. Les Carter says, "Sometimes families and even churches may be prone to shooting their own wounded. They just don't know what to do with you. They don't know what they should say, so the best thing they know to do is pretend like you don't exist."

James shares, "Friends that I had didn't know how to handle it. Anytime I was around them, I was either crying or upset, so it was tough on them too."

Your friends and family may sincerely desire to help you, but they often do not have the right advice or experience to offer you true comfort. Do not blame them for their inadequacies. You could help them by explaining how they could help you. People feel more comfortable when they know where they stand and what they can do.

During times of hurt and perceived rejection from others, you have a choice to make about those relationships, and we encourage you to choose to build and not break down friendships during this difficult time.

"Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me" (Psalm 27:10).

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