You may feel a deep need for a mate, a partner, and a companion to ease your loneliness. Be patient, now is not the time. First, you must learn to be single.
"You don't solve loneliness by getting married," says Dr. Myles Munroe. "Some of the loneliest people in the world are married people. Nothing is worse than being lonely in a marriage because you're trapped."
Dr. Munroe says God designed people to be single.* He explains, "People walk around with a tremendous misconception of what it means to be single. Singleness, in its basic definition, means to be separate, unique, and whole. To be single means you are separate from everyone else, and you are unique in yourself-which means you recognize there's no one like you, and you have worth within yourself. To be single also means you are whole; you don't depend on other people to make you somebody. Until a person is completely single in these three areas, his or her relationships will always be a problem."
Have you come to the point where you know you are separate, unique, and whole as a person? After you consider each of these three areas in your life, think about the longings and worries you have and the emotions you sometimes struggle with. Learn to recognize areas of your life that need work, and avoid new relationships with the opposite sex until you are completely single. God has a purpose for you in your singleness-don't miss it!
"For everything, absolutely everything, above and below, visible and invisible, . . . everything got started in him and finds its purpose in him" (Colossians 1:16 Msg).